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  • Writer's pictureDillan Taylor

Friend systems

I had my biweekly phone call with one of my best friends yesterday. She lives in Rwanda.

Last week I realized we had been keeping the chain going for a year and a half. And we have no plan on stopping.

What an easy system for staying in touch. We just picked a time that works for us, set a calendar event for every two weeks, make adjustments when we need, and just show up.

On the call, I thanked her for her consistency in this.

She chuckled and said, “You made the calendar invite. All I do is answer the phone.”

But that’s exactly it. That’s all we need. It’s a system that runs itself.

It’s a small amount of effort which has led to countless hours of connection and deep conversation. She knows everything about me. My…

Wins. Fears. Opportunities. Projects. Relationships. Heartbreaks. Accomplishments.

She’s heard me at my highest and lowest points this past year. I’ve never met her husband but I feel like I’ve known him for years. Just from an hour and a half chat every two weeks.

The point of this blog is not to tell others to do exactly what we do. It’s to highlight how easy it is to do something truly vital in life: stay in contact with your God damn friends.

One day we won’t be able to.

Whenever that day comes, I’m looking forward to saying, “I’m glad we did that,” as opposed to, “I wish we did that.”


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