You aren’t what you’ve done a couple times.
You aren’t what you’d like to do, what you should’ve done, or what you could’ve done.
You aren’t what you say you will do.
You are what you do consistently.
You’re not fit because you went for a run. You are fit because you’ve consistently eaten clean and exercised for months.
You’re not a good friend because you tell your buddy how much they mean to you. You are a good friend because you’ve been there supporting them on a regular basis.
If you want to be something, do something consistently.