I certainly can’t provide an accurate formula for how one rids toxic people from their life. I’ve written about it in the past, but cutting someone out of your life is an incredibly uncomfortable and confusing process.
What I can touch on with more clarity is: the importance of surrounding yourself with friends you admire and people who contribute to your growth as a human being.
I firmly believe that in some way, shape, or form, you should be inspired by your friends. That’s not to say that every single one of them has to have the exact same values as you do; but if they’re not encouraging you to give fire to your own values, this should give you pause.
It can sound incredibly cheesy (especially for a guy [but I think those standards are eroding]), but I want a friend in my tribe: • to laugh and make me laugh • who is interested in the world • who cares about their own improvement • to give me feedback and hold my feet to the fire • to help me and ask for my help • with whom we can share our fears, struggles, and appreciation without judgment
This list makes me sound like a needy bitch, but I’ve been lucky to accumulate a tribe over the years which meets these standards. I live a healthy and fulfilling life and I have my tribe to thank for that.
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